How to Reinvent Yourself

hambourg-1948Uniqueness means that there are new aspects of you waiting to be explored. It is the possibility of getting better, being more and becoming someone new. That’s our design. We have that gift.

Some of us explore further than others. But we all have the same chance – we’ve all been given the ability to evolve.

That said. How do you reinvent yourself? Here are a few tips:

  • Acknowledge Changes

As humans, we change in order to survive, stay relevant and thrive. This starts with recognizing the changes in your environment and being willing to adjust accordingly. Those who fail to adjust become irrelevant.

  • Unlearn: Give it Up

The root of reinvention lies in the adjusting or replacement of habits and thought-patterns. This is the tough part. It starts by consciously engaging the process of discarding thoughts and behavior that work against your goals.

  • Relearn: Acquire New Habits

In this process, old thought-patterns and behavior have to be replaced by new ones. For instance, if you decide to reinvent your body, you may have to give up junk food and replace the habit with healthy eating – and an exercise routine.

Good luck!

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The Power of NO

ftch_newmuseum2808In my teens, my mum would tell me that: “too much of anything is bad – even the good stuff.” Then, I didn’t believe her; I wanted everything and didn’t care about measure.

Now, her advice comes to mind when I think about the flow of information in the 21st century. These days, we have so much information coming at us daily – so that what’s actually a good thing sometimes feels like a siege. Every day, we grapple on various devices and media, trying to keep up. It’s tough!

Suddenly, we barely have much time because each message or piece of information demands our response. Consequently, our attention is constantly pulled in many different directions.

In order to be an effective human being (not entrepreneur, leader, etc – just a sane person), you’ve got to engage the amazing time management tool of: NO. Every successful person that I know uses this tool masterfully – and joyfully.

It’s an old trick, but it works. I can’t be at every meeting, party, conference or social event; I’m not cut out for every opportunity. Hence, NO is my favorite work tool; I love it!

Boss, Hire Better People!

romero-britto-in-the-parkOn a consulting assignment, many years ago, I got into a conversation with a business owner who told me that she was careful to hire low-skilled individuals, who asked fewer questions and would not challenge her ideas.

If you were educated beyond high school, showed too much smarts or opinionated, you had no chance in her organization. I was stunned!

Then, it was hard to believe that this individual would deliberately seek out low-skilled, ‘yes’ folks for her business. I didn’t expect that kind of thinking at that level

Well, I’m way past the initial shock because I’ve seen this thought pattern displayed in various ways in the corporate world. Instances where entrepreneurs and business leaders stifle sharp minds due to the leader’s insecurities – abound.

There’s a downside though. These leaders forfeit the benefits of good feedback which in turn hinders business growth. In such organizations, innovation is rare because the atmosphere is designed to frustrate it.

A leader’s insecurities should be properly managed to avoid the alienation of brilliant minds. This is vital because in the face of current business challenges, you need all the mental ‘firepower’ you can find.

Should Every Idea Be Sold?

Forming Attachments Layers Merged 750My first book will never be published.

It’s a manuscript of over 34000 words written within a 30day burst of inspiration – many years ago. It was my first attempt at a full-length book and I don’t want it commercialized. It’s for me, not the public.

At first, I thought I wanted it published, but later realized that I didn’t want to share it. Apparently, this behavior isn’t unusual; creative minds – writers, artists and songwriters – experience it.

The Vault is where the profusely creative singer/songwriter, Prince, stores some of his works. BBC reported that, “…if Prince was to die tomorrow, he has so much unreleased music, he could release an album a year for the next 100years…” He records and simply puts them away.

What’s his plan? We’re not sure. He’s in no hurry to make them public – we may never hear the works. But the songs are finished and kept away.

In the creative process, you’ll discover ideas that are just for you and for some reason you feel no pressure to share. It’s okay to share these ideas when you’re ready and if you don’t want to, it’s fine.

Say it: “I Was Wrong”

contemporary-artworkIn certain communities, getting older means that you’re supposed to know ‘everything’- it’s an unwritten rule, a common notion.

It’s worse if you’re an elder or a leader, folks get shocked if you show that you don’t know – you’re expected to know. It’s shameful not to know.

Sadly, the ‘know-all’ attitude doesn’t work well with people today. Folks are smarter, more sophisticated and exposed than you think – and can easily call you out on your bullshit. It’s hard to manipulate people these days; they see right through your act.

Hence, if for some reason you were wrong, made a poor judgment, messed up or missed it in anyway, your best bet would be to own up and admit you were out of line.

As a CEO, it’s now harder to lord it over your management team. In the 21st century, effective leadership entails that you get comfortable with admitting your mistakes and then seeking ways to make amends.

You don’t know it all – not even with Google at your disposal. On that note, you’ll make mistakes; we all know that you will – and that’s OK!

Do I Follow My Dreams Or Keep My Real Job?

Van-Gogh-Paintings-10Or: Are you living in fear?

That’s the real question.

Fear is a dominant factor in the life of many adults and its power to regulate decisions and actions is profound.

I’m not entirely for the ‘just-do-it’ school of thought because sometimes you have to scheme your way out of certain limitations in order to step into your dream. Neither am I for over-planning; there are times you just have to jump in. Rather, my concern is this: is fear keeping you where you are?

Fear can make you quit a great job and pursue your dream at the wrong time. Also, it can make you stay too long on your job and miss the right timing for your goals.

So for now, you probably need a job – stay the course and do great work. Or, it’s time to follow your dream – then make the moves. But don’t stay anywhere due to fear and if you are, start plotting your way out.

Fear is blinding, but once you assess and confront it, you’ll start to see exactly what you’re supposed to do.

Value The Process, Enjoy The Journey

Blue-Abstract-painting-by-Simon-Brushfield1Life is rooted in processes. Every aspect is intended to go through stages. We start as babies, then grow and evolve.

Likewise, our ideas are subject to processes. You think it, and then you’re thrown into a tunnel of mixed rationales. You plan, meet people, seek resources, start, almost fail, fail, start again, barely succeed, eventually succeed, start again…get a new idea… and every step is designed to grow an aspect of your mind.

While going through the motion, it’s easy for entrepreneurs to get fixated on the struggles and pain of birthing an idea and that’s not the point.

This is:

The process of an idea is designed to make you better – someone who increases in quality – in an area. Folks who understand this embrace the process because the reward is worth the pain.

The successful is frequently asked for the secrets to success. That’s easy: process! The ups, downs, small and medium wins, setbacks, fights, big wins, joys, sorrows…the unique cocktail that life gives each one.

Richard Branson’s process is the real secret to his success. Oprah Winfrey, President Barrack Obama, Anthony Robbins, Warren Buffet…YOU! Everyone is made by process.